A Guide To Getting Your Ex Back

One thing that you should keep in mind whether you got back together with your ex or not, is that, just as you are your own person and have your own needs and wants, so too does the other person. To make a relationship work, both parties need to work at it.

This means compromise, and for those of you who think that compromise is a four letter word, let me disabuse you of that idea. Compromise is the cornerstone of a good relationship, and is indispensable at keeping a relationship alive and kicking.

And whatever you do, remember that you don’t own the other person. They are their own person, and you will both have different wants. If they need more space than you do, come to a compromise of what works best for both of you.

This is the hallmark of a good relationship and probably the one thing that you should take away from you whether you were successful in getting your ex back or not.

I hope that you get what you wish for, that your dreams come true always and that you find your soul mate. Till then, peace be with you, always.

Table of Contents

Forward

 

Introduction

 Relationships

Why you’re here

 

You – and your Ex

Breaking up is hard to do

A few do’s and don’ts

   Clean up your act

   Act normally

   Keep your dignity

   Keep a smile on your face

   Do the unexpected     

   Try these two little words – I’m sorry

   Don’t make the same mistake twice

   Don’t act like a shrew

   Don’t be clingy

   Be flexible

   Go out with your friends and get some fresh air

   Don’t turn into the ex from hell

   Don’t beg – it’s unseemly

   Stay away from asking questions about your ex 

   Keep things simple – don’t play the blame game           

   Don’t use sex

 

Be honest

It’s crunch time

Revenge isn’t all it’s cracked up to be

 

Who dumped whom?

If you were the dumper

If you were the dumpee

 

Be strong          

Be positive about things

Don’t get discouraged

Look for the silver lining

Fight for what you want

Have patience – it might take time

Use humor

 

What you want to do, and what you should do     

Don’t become a stalker

Don’t give in to the urge to recriminate

Don’t wail and rant and rave      

Don’t come on too strong

Don’t become a doormat

Don’t contact your ex’s family for information

Don’t hit on your ex’s friends     

Don’t do a “Ross”

 

What you can do to get your ex back

Be yourself

Give your ex some breathing space

Hold your tongue

Pride has its place – learn where it goes

Classy begging

Strive for lightheartedness

Keep things on a friendly footing

Bring back happy memories, if at all

   Touching memories    

Make your ex feel special

Use everything you’ve got

Jealousy can work – sometimes

Start over, go back to the beginning

And if all else fails, try humble honesty

Try couples counseling

 

Sex – to use it or not

When to use sex

Remember the good times you used to have

Create a special bond with your ex

Show your ex what they’re missing without you    

Get your ex to share their troubles with you

 

Learn when to let go

 

What happens after you get back together

 

In conclusion